You Can Handle Negative People And Thrive
The world fills with all types of people – negative thinking people as well as positive thinking people. Negative thinking people are around every corner of the world looking forward to ruining your day. These pessimistic people derive satisfaction from indulging an optimistic person in negative thoughts. Therefore, it is always advisable to stay unaffected by the words of these pessimists.
It is not easy to be unaffected by others’ negativity, but there are ways in which you can avoid it. The first step in doing so is, to be honest with yourself and with those close to you. You need to determine just what caused the negativity in their life and then figure out how you can respond positively.
Most often, those who suffer from negative thoughts simply see the bad in everything instead of looking at the good that actually comes out of all situations. Negative minded people will come to you first when you are in a turbid situation. They come and make all the possible negative comments to put the fear and stress into you. Simply, they derive satisfaction out of this. Therefore, do not take their words into your head. Instead, appear polite to them and make them feel that you are not moved by the situation. However, if their words can move you once, then you are likely to suffer from negativity and depression. Therefore, do not lose your decision-making capabilities.
Taking things personally is a major mistake. Negative people always do things deliberately to make you upset. If you ever noticed, these people are easily agitated and angry all of the time. They often complain about something or coming up with an explanation for why things are not going as well as they would like. In reality, they are unhappy in their lives; therefore, they see your life in the same way as theirs. The best way to deal with these people is not to pay much attention to their comments. Just let them speak and you put your ear to some other tasks.
Another way to deal with negative people and remain unaffected by them is that you might want to determine if it is because of their negative outlook or if there is something behind it, maybe finding out what is behind the negativity, you can begin to better deal with it. One way you can do, (which is quite difficult) is doing them an equal amount of good for all the negative things they have done to you. In fact, doing this will not only make them jealous, but also you will feel satisfied with the good you have done to some people. At least, you can write on your list every day some amount of good that you have done. Your good and kindness may make them realize someday and make them a positive person.
Confront them and say to them that their negative thoughts and comments make people more depressed in times of negativity. They may already know this about themselves, but may not have heard from others telling them. This gives you an opportunity to communicate with them on a completely different level. Therefore, confronting them will shake their confidence and make them rethink their attitude. Demonstrating their attitude and letting them know how mean they are, may make them change their attitude a little.
Over and above, if you are optimistic, it is not advisable to stay away from pessimistic people but to remain unaffected by the doings or words of pessimistic people. This will show the real optimism in you. With the ability to get over any feeling of discomfort or stress that you may have had with them, you are always ready to deal with this issue without turning into a nervous wreck. In fact, the opposite will happen if you use these techniques on a regular basis. You will find that you are able to thrive in a positive manner if you learn how to remain unaffected by negative people.